I understand your concerns about sex and your kids. Unplanned pregnancy, abortion and sexually transmitted infections are at the forefront of your mind. On top of that there is also the emotional and relational affects sex has on someone so young. Although the culture touts sexual rights to pleasure, as parents we also know that sex, at an early age, places a burden on our youth that is too heavy to bear.
On one hand, you hope they won’t become sexually active and wait until marriage. On the other hand the culture tells you that all adolescents are having sex and there’s nothing we can do to stop it. The case made by the world leads many to seek expertise from Planned Parenthood and public schools. I want to encourage you that YOU can be that expert for your kids. And the culture does not define your child’s behavior.
I was a Comprehensive Sex Educator (CSE) for 10 years. I left that career because I saw how it was harming youth, vulnerable communities and interfering with parental involvement. Research shows that CSE is not effective and and have been shown to increase risk behavior and infection.
All STD and HIV prevention efforts focus solely on risk reduction education. All sexual activities are described in detail with the associated bodily fluids. Next STI’s are described by methods of transmission (sexual activities, bodily fluids). Condoms and lubrication are the only prevention approach discussed in detail. Since condom effectiveness rates are 50% or less for most STI’s, the educator recommends frequent testing and treatment. But it doesn’t seem to be working because the STD rates are still rising.
- Youth ages 15-24 make up just 27% of the sexually active US population, but account for 50% of the new STD infections each year
- CSE programs encourage STI testing because they know it’s a matter of WHEN you get infected. Condoms are not full proof.
What Teens Say
- Majority of sexually active teens say that they regret becoming sexually active and wish they had waited.
- Teens say CSE classes make them feel pressured to have sex
- Teens say that condom demonstrations make them feel that sex is expected of them.
- Teens say that PARENTS have the greatest influence on their decision and attitude about sex, if parents would talk to them.
It’s time we have The Talk.
I mean you and me.
After leaving Comprehensive Sex Education, I became a Sexual Risk Avoidance Specialist. I have over 20 years experience in this field and I have a lot to share with you. I want to teach you how to be your child’s primary educator on sex and relationships. As parents we are the sole authority over our children. No one wants the best for your kids as much as you do. Your children are waiting for you to lead this conversation and only you can give them the best guidance. I can teach you to be their greatest resource on this subject.
Invite me into your community to equip you on how to best have a life long conversation with your children about puberty, their bodies, brains, dating, sex and their future. The information I share is medically accurate and supported by research. The research demonstrates that the SRA approach leads to long-term optimal health physically, mentally and financially.
Invite me to speak in your community or Church.
- The Life Long Conversation: Bodies, Development, Healthy Relationships, Marriage & Sex
- Building Family Trust and Connection
- What is Comprehensive Sex Education & Sexual Risk Avoidance
- Teen Brain Development
- The Brain & Sex: Bonding or Pleasure
- Sexually Transmitted Infections: Everything a parent needs to know